A Facebook post I shared five years ago. It reads “When people ask me to share the candy I’m eating, I give them the flavor I don’t like” and comes with a forever alone type meme. Truth be told, I just share the sweeties regardless of flavour, unless I’m eating Quality Street, and they’re someone I don’t like, then in that case, they get all the toffees!
When dealing with those awkward questions or when someone is giving you a piece of their mind, sometimes it is better to keep those lips sealed and let the absence of voice do the talking. There are those who have a habit of saying things to provoke or upset and silence is the best way to frustrate them.
This quote was said to be uttered by Ali ibn Abi Talib, the Imam Ali or the fourth Caliph in the early days of Islam. He was also a cousin and son-in-law of the founder of Islam, the prophet Muhammed.
Don’t let the nasty utterances of other people bring you down and cause you to lash out in anger. Let their comments and attitudes flow over you like water over a stone. Remember the old adage – “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me”. Be impervious to people who talk rubbish, don’t give them the reaction they want, and you will come out looking the stronger and better person.
“Kindness should become the natural way of life, not the exception.”
Kindness is one of the most beautiful aspects of humanity. Doing good things for each other, helping others and being there as a shoulder to cry or rest on. However there are a lot of dark things happening in this world, and at times, it well seems kindness is in short supply.
Let’s move from hatred, discrimination, warmongering and violence and learn to treat each other more with kindness and understanding. Let’s make it our natural way of life, not just something to be unwrapped only for special occasions.
Richard Andrew “Rick” Pitino is an American basketball coach. Since 2001, he has been the head coach at the University of Louisville, and coached the Cardinals to the 2013 NCAA Men’s Division I Basketball Championship. He has also been head of the Puerto Rico national basketball team.
An old Turkish proverb relating the importance of not gossiping and backbiting about other people or indulging yourself in other people’s gossip. It may be riveting and appeal to the darker side of our curiosity, but the proverbial dung can fly in all directions. You may revel in hearing about what the gossiped-about person allegedly got up to, but how do you know the gossip is not spreading your muck around too?
The negative form of gossiping, as opposed to just sharing information around, is in my opinion one of the lowest forms of human communication. Gossips very much trade in bringing other people down and inflating their own smug sense of self-worth. They may be confiding another person’s secrets to you, without that other person’s permission of course, but then what is stopping them from doing the same to you, if say, they fell out with you or if they like stirring crap for crap’s sake. Gossiping encourages bullying and low self-esteem and exacerbates conflicts. It is a poisonous thing to do or get involved with.
Being criticised is not the nicest feeling in the world. It does feel a bit of a downer when you pour your heart and soul into something, a poem, a photograph, a graphic, or a short story, and then someone comes along and criticises. While it may make you want to burst a vessel and bang them over the head with the nearest moveable object, stop and think. While there are plenty of trolls and ‘people-with-nothing-better-to-do’ who criticise your work just to cause trouble or for criticism’s sake – if it is constructive criticism, then don’t take it to heart. By listening to such criticism, as much as it may burn you up a bit inside, you can learn something new and improve upon what you’ve done. So in fact that critic may well turn out to be your angel in disguise.
No-one is above criticism, but being criticised in a kind, intelligent and constructive manner can help you improve your talents and abilities, whether that is writing a novel, or cooking a decent spaghetti bolognese. Chances are they are only trying to help.
Critics can help improve things. Indeed a lot of our inventions, policies and the products we use only succeeded because people had a critical and evaluative input into the processes that brought them about. If people weren’t saying “This is good, but I think this could be better”; we’d probably still be living in the Stone Age, clubbing each over the head and grunting. And I’m sure even the Neanderthals must have critiqued each other’s cavern paintings.
The above quote was originally thought up by Elbert Hubbard (June 19, 1856 – May 7, 1915), who was an American writer, publisher, artist, and philosopher. It was today shared on Twitter by Australian author Ben Brown and retweeted by my follower ‘Hinduism Glance’, a religious blogger.